[S7E9] Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

However, his life is soon to be changed forever, for better or worse. After receiving a message from the Jade Palace itself, he is dragged into possibly playing a part in an ancient prophecy. Hunter is hired by Master Shifu to track down the mystical 'Heir of China' who is rumoured to be able to bring stability during these dark days of uncertainty and strife. Will this just be another job Or will Hunter find something more valuable than just gold coins on this journey Will his mysterious past be revealed And what exactly is the price of true happiness

Before her mother died, Sorsha had a dream. A prophecy that would lead to her downfall. Her child of surprise. Her unexpected baby, shall marry a red headed princess of blood and bone. Once this is done, it would spell out the end of her reign.

So, the first one is self-fulfilling prophecies. It can be about you, or it could be self-fulfilling prophecies about other people. Now, hopefully, as I go through this and I explain some of the research and explain some of the Bible verses that go with it, like I think we can kind of put this all in this category of like psychological mumbo jumbo or like self-help stuff. And I'm not, you know, there's definitely that out there for sure, but it's not like we can't look at any of this. And since you know the Bible talks about this and Charlotte Mason talks about it as well, I think it's definitely worth something looking at.

But and I just think it's so important to teach our kids, you know that we can, you can't always trust your reasoning. We will try to reason, defend, argue, explain what it is that we want sometimes, right Being selfish people. But also, even negative thoughts that we have. So, what happens is, and this goes back to the self-fulfilling prophecy that I'm gonna talk about here but, when we are, our brains can't hold a belief that we don't have proof for. That's called cognitive dissonance. We don't like that, psychologically speaking, it makes us feel really uncomfortable, right And so, our brains look for evidence to prove what it is that we're believing.

So, for example, the other day I was doing long division with my 5th grader and she's like getting all frustrated. She's like, I can't do this. I'm terrible at math. And I was like, okay, well that's a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you're terrible at math, you're gonna look for ways to prove to yourself that you're terrible at math. So, right now your brain is saying, oh, I can't solve this problem fast enough. Here's another proof. Here's and that's more evidence of why I'm terrible at math. And I was like, let's think a different thought. And she's...is there something else you could think about of how you are at math, and she thought for a minute. She goes, well, I can't say I'm good at math, cause that would be lying. I'm like, okay, right But is there something true about you and math that you can believe Other than I'm terrible at it And I'm like how about you're trying really hard Is that true or you trying really hard She goes, yeah yeah I'm trying. I'm like okay. So why don't we believe about yourself that you're trying really hard at math And she goes okay.

But also, for your children too, like my daughter with her math, right And so, I've just been encouraging her. Her self-fulfilling prophecy is I don't know this yet, but I'm going to try my best. And then I have another daughter who is really bossy, and I've been trying to really reframe that with her and also with myself of saying you have such great leadership potential. Which she does, right She could get the whole entire house doing what she wants. Life would be good for her. We do need to re-channel that, right But I'm choosing to focus on the, wow, you have really great leadership potential.

Not that we're not gonna like ever. I'm not talking about like just painting roses over everything, right Like we can acknowledge, hey that is really difficult. We're learning a lot from this. Or this is really stretching me right now. But if I keep saying to myself, this is hard. I can't do it. I don't know what I'm doing. I can't say those words and then try to believe or feel differently about it. So the way that we speak to our kids, but also the way that we speak to ourselves really does those kind of self-fulfilling prophecies. They really do change the structure of our brain here.

How many times people come up to me and say I didn't wanna read that one book We didn't like it, but then we kept going and it was my kid's favorite. Or we loved it. Or we learned so much from it, you know. And then the next one becomes a little bit easier because you worked with that one. So, the other mental habit. So, we have the, so, so far today, just to recap, I've talked about the self-fulfilling prophecy, right What we say about ourselves and what we say about our children. This mindset of grit. That it's okay if something's hard. Persevering through it is going to make me stronger and better and more knowledgeable and build that mental habit that's gonna make it easier the next time I do it.

So, those are the mental habits that we're going to focus on today that I'm going to challenge you to focus on this month. Again, doing something every day, over time, that slow and steady progress right Can make a huge difference. So self-fulfilling prophecy was what are you saying about yourself and you know, look at each of your children and what's the prophecy that you would like to say to them. You really work hard. You're really determined. 781b155fdc